You Really Can't Expect Anything When You're Expecting

Tuesday, November 06, 2012

The truth is, from my own experience, you really can't expect anything when you're expecting... I mean, anything can happen when you're pregnant... The best way I can explain it to is by telling about what has been happening to my wifey now... 

She's now being warded at Hospital Serdang because there's a problem with the amniotic water (air ketuban)... After countless times of check ups, the doctors found that the water was lacking and there's a risk of suffocation for the baby... 

I've explained this to so many people when they asked about how my wife's doing... 

No, the water is lacking not because my wife didn't drink enough water...

No, you can't add the water by drinking a lot...

From what my wifey told me, the water is lacking because there's a possible leak... You see, we're first time parents and so, we have no idea how the amniotic water looks like and thus have no idea when it leaked... We're sort of clueless on how and when it happened...

The water is a part of a membrane that's protecting the baby and also the mother... Because the water is lacking, every time the baby moves, wifey feels a bit of pain... Besides that, like I said before, the baby will suffocate without the water...

Luckily, for now, the water is enough for the baby to breath and grow... The doctors are constantly monitoring the water level and baby's growth and health... Everyday, they monitor baby's heartbeat and wifey's blood pressure at least twice... Once a week, the doctors measure the water volume to make sure there's no danger...

If the doctors found that situation is critical, they'll opt for early delivery... Whether it's going to be natural birth or Caesarian, it depends on baby's condition... The doctors have injected wifey with something to strengthen baby's lungs just in case things went risky...

Right now, wifey's been warded for weeks... We're hoping that the water will be enough until baby reach 36 - 37 weeks... Early labour is so risky for both the baby and mother... 

It's true what people say, we'll only appreciate our mother's sacrifices once we've gone through pregnancy ourselves... Even though I'm not the one carrying the baby, but to watch wifey all in pain and being frequently tired... it's tough...

Sometimes when I touch her tummy, I wish half of the pain could be transferred to me so that it won't be that burdening...

I admire my wifey so much... Despite everything, she always always always say, "It's okey... It's for the baby..." and "As long as baby is safe..." 

I can't hold back my tears when she mentioned, "I don't care if I can't make it... As long as baby is healthy..." That one broke my heart... Truthfully, this experience is an extremely emotional one... All I can do keep giving her the support she needs...

A few advice for those who are planning to get pregnant:-

First one, don't make it long distance... As I'm typing this, wifey and I are hundred miles apart... I'm at Dungun while she's at Serdang... I would love to hold her hand right now, brush her hair with my fingers and kiss her on the forehead... Those kind of affection calm the heart more effectively than a thousand words... You can say whatever u want but always remember, actions speak louder... 

Next, choose your hospital carefully... The one wifey is in now is unfortunately not that good in terms of facility, food and treatment from the nurse... There are so many pregnant ladies in the hospital but there are only two scanner to be utilized for check ups... Even the doctors complain about the hospital not having enough budget... Besides that, the food sucks and the nurses are so so so rude... Well, there are a few nice nurses but some of the ones taking care of my wifey got serious issues... Where's the fucking sincerity?? 

Therefore, before registering for anything, just ask your friends, neighbours and anyone who were pregnant before about which hospitals they went and their opinions of them... We're definitely going to Hospital Putrajaya next time because we heard positive reviews on it...

Always always always go for regular check ups because they're important... During each session, the doctors will check your and your baby's growth and health... Don't ever skip an appointment... Take my wife for example... If she didn't go for her appointment, she might be at home now, clueless and unaware of the danger...

Take plenty of rest and relax... Pregnancy can be a fragile thing... My colleague who's two months pregnant is now warded because she experienced some bleeding because she's been driving a lot... Fortunately, the foetus is fine... Do not lift heavy things... Leave it to the husbands...  

Okey, that's it for now... I'll post other tips if I can come up with some... Bare in mind that these are solely based on my own experience and this is from a father to be's perspective... 

Please pray for my wifey's and baby's safety and health... Thanks for reading :-)

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